Lessening the negative effects of divorce on children requires patience, understanding, and total support from both parents. Educate yourself on the most helpful parenting strategies for children during and after divorce so you can understand how to best handle the issues and continue to parent your kids well.
Find hope in learning how to mitigate the negative effects and knowing how to talk with your kids during this uncertain time.
Know you are sending the right messages to your kids to make sure they feel loved and secure.
Feel balanced and calm enough to make sure the kids stay a priority and don’t get lost in the process.
Feel confident knowing you are parenting your kids better than ever, even in new territory.
Members get all these tools PLUS multiple pages of guidance on custody and child support, parenting agreements, co-parenting techniques, step-families, and more.
Julie is an amazing coach through the difficult process of divorce. I saved thousands of dollars in lawyer fees because she enabled me to prioritize and organize the many steps one must go through when getting divorced. She was an incredible support system during this tough time. I highly recommend Untangle the Knot and Julie’s services.
Telling our children about the divorce was frightening and painful. We wanted to do anything we could to make it even a little less painful. Using the techniques in this guide made the conversation go as well as it could, and gave us additional tools for follow up discussions.
UTK provided me with clear and concise information about the process, my rights, getting a handle on my finances, and simply coping with the whole divorce and the effect on every aspect of my life. Untangle The Knot is an excellent online resource for anyone going through divorce!
Who will get the kids?
Most states have a guideline for equally sharing parenting time (formerly known as custody). This can depend on the children’s ages and each parents ability to care for the children. States will default to what they believe is in the best interests of the kids.
Will my kids be okay?
As a parent, this is the heartbreaking concern that keeps us up at night. Your kids will be okay! It will hurt and be an adjustment, but there are proven things you can do to help ease their transition and help them heal. The most important thing you can do is to take good care of yourself so you are strong enough to help your kids.
How do I tell the kids we are getting divorced?
This is probably the hardest and one of the most important conversations you’ll have. The words you choose when telling your kids about your divorce will begin to shape their emotions and mindset. There are best practices to use depending on the ages of the kids and we have scripts available with your purchase of Untangle The Knot. Make every effort to tell the kids with your spouse and both of you reinforce how much you each love the kids and will always be there for them no matter what.
What are some tips for Parenting Through Divorce?
You will have more on your plate right now than potentially ever before. There is the sheer magnitude of “things” that need to be done, and then top that with the prevailing emotional stress. It’s easy to see why children often get lost in this process and do not receive the focus they need during this time.
Understand Your Children’s Emotions
As you work through the divorce process, your children will be on their own emotional roller coaster. Understanding what your children are feeling, hearing what they are communicating to you or others (regardless of what they are saying), sending them the messages they need to hear in the way they need to hear them, and knowing when therapy could be helpful are a good chunk of the tools you need to help your children.
Build an Effective Co-Parenting Relationship
You can lessen the negative impact divorce may have on your children by building a solid relationship with your children’s other parent.
Create Consistency
Creating consistency for your children between your two homes is key. When you have similar routines, rules, rewards and discipline, it sets your children up for a higher level of emotional stability overall as well as a much easier time transitioning between the two parents.
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