You will have more on your plate right now than potentially ever before. There is the sheer magnitude of “things” that need to be done, and then top that with the prevailing emotional stress. It’s easy to see why children often get lost in this process and do not receive the focus they need during this time.
Understand Your Children’s Emotions
As you work through the divorce process, your children will be on their own emotional roller coaster. Understanding what your children are feeling, hearing what they are communicating to you or others (regardless of what they are saying), sending them the messages they need to hear in the way they need to hear them, and knowing when therapy could be helpful are a good chunk of the tools you need to help your children.
Build an Effective Co-Parenting Relationship
You can lessen the negative impact divorce may have on your children by building a solid relationship with your children’s other parent.
Creating consistency for your children between your two homes is key. When you have similar routines, rules, rewards and discipline, it sets your children up for a higher level of emotional stability overall as well as a much easier time transitioning between the two parents.