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Save Your Time, Money and Sanity with Divorce Coaching

When we started Untangle The Knot, we honestly hadn’t envisioned offering divorce coaching. Our goal was to provide an online resource that would give anyone contemplating or going through divorce just about everything you need to know about divorce and living your life while going through it. However, as time went by, I was encouraged by many people to start divorce coaching because they knew how much I could help those who really needed it. They were right! With that, Untangle The Knot Companion Coaching was born.

What is Divorce Coaching?

In our recent blog How a Life Coach Can Help You During Divorce, you got an idea of what
coaching is all about. Divorce Coaching focuses on your life while you are contemplating divorce, going through the process and transitioning into your new single life. Every coach has a different style and methodology, but generally, a Divorce Coach will help you identify your next steps, define your priorities, help you get organized and hold you accountable while working through the plan.

My Journey to Divorce Coaching

Before starting Untangle The Knot, I enjoyed a very successful career in the business world. I thrived at working in chaotic situations or on complex projects where I would break the problem down to manageable pieces, set priorities, create a plan, and bring order to the chaos. This applied to acquiring companies, turnaround situations or simply large business issues that needed to be resolved. The other major part of my career was coaching — albeit informally. I seemed to have a knack for becoming people’s confidants and helping them through difficult situations. I found myself working with members at the Executive level and throughout the organization. No matter what my role or which company I was in, I always found myself playing this informal role.

I can quickly assess a problem, see what needs to happen and identify the steps to get there. I’m empathetic in my approach, but I will kick your butt a little when needed. There are times when it is okay to hang out in the fetal position for a bit, and times when action is required no matter how crappy you might feel. I’ll encourage you to take care of and be kind to yourself, but I will also push you when you need to be pushed.

What to Expect

We will start with a 20 minute phone consultation, and I’ll ask that you provide me with the background of your situation and what you are currently facing. I’ll give you some on-the-spot guidance and, when it makes sense, we’ll talk about how I can help you going forward.

My approach is customized.

Divorce is confusing, whether you are trying to make the decision to stay or go or you are in the middle of the process. I do not have a cookie cutter approach where we’ll check the boxes on a master checklist. We’ll develop a plan together that makes the most sense for you and the challenges you are facing. While many broad strokes of divorce are the same for everyone, everybody has unique situations and challenges they must face.

You’ll save money and time.

I can guarantee you’ll get through this phase of your life easier with me than without me! You’ll do much less spinning trying to figure out what to do next or what decision to make, you’ll be more focused on the immediate steps you need to take, and you will get through this more quickly while spending less money. This will ultimately help you to get through the divorce process faster.

I work well with others.

I am not a lawyer, mediator or therapist. I can tell you that many divorce professionals love clients who are working with a Divorce Coach. They find that these clients are more clear on their priorities, informed and organized. It enables them to use their time with you on their areas of expertise to ensure they can do the best job for you, at the lowest cost. After all, paying a lawyer $300+ an hour to help you create a budget is probably not the most cost-effective approach!

SPECIAL OFFER

I offer a limited number of ZERO COST strategy sessions where we’ll work together to:

  • Determine your greatest source of pain and stress right now, and get tools to minimize the struggle.
  • Get perspective. Most people don’t know how to successfully navigate the divorce process with less stress — because they do it without expert guidance.
  • Discover the tips to minimizing unnecessary divorce expenses and increase your peace of mind!

I know the first step is scary, especially if you haven’t committed to the decision to divorce. But if we are a fit, you’re putting yourself on a much easier path through divorce. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain!

My goal is to inform, empower and support you. I would be truly honored to help you through your divorce journey. Click here to learn more.



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How A Life Coach Can Help You During Divorce

When you think of a coach, it can have many meanings–that guy yelling plays from the sideline, directing his team to the big win. Or, the person who teaches your children how to hit a baseball or kick a soccer ball during weekly practices and games. Over recent years, coaching has increased in popularity with everyone from corporate executives to stay-at-home moms. A coach can be someone who is trained to help you advance your career, fine-tune your finances, navigate the divorce process, lose weight or even organize your closet.

What Does a Life Coach Do?

A true coach’s sole purpose is to help you reach your goals, on your timeline, based upon your desire for a higher level of fulfillment in your life — in any area. Techniques can include visioning, self-awareness exercises, core value determination, and learning to create new patterns of thinking, communication and behavior via various written exercises, role playing and through real life experiences.

To really benefit from working with a coach, you do need to be ready to actively participate in the process. It will require that you do the work outside of the weekly sessions, and genuinely take a proactive role in changing your life for the better. It is action-driven, even if that action is requiring you to sit quietly for 15 minutes each day to start to get your thoughts organized and clear.

How Do I Choose a Life Coach?

Don’t be afraid to ask for references and discuss the specific process that coach utilizes. As with therapy, there are different approaches, techniques and styles. You may prefer to work with a man or woman. You could choose a specialist (such as a Divorce Coach) or a general Life Coach, like me. You’ll want to feel comfortable with their level of experience and source of training. Some coaches are certified, but that isn’t required to be a coach. You’ll need to determine if this is important to you. It’s also important to understand the cost and time requirements each week, and if there is a contract for a specific number of sessions once you get started.

Do I Need a Life Coach If I’m Already Working With a Therapist?

Coaching and therapy are certainly not mutually exclusive. In fact, combining these services can be of great benefit and work hand-in-hand toward getting you on the right path in your life. A therapist is typically more focused on the root causes for feeling the way you do and helping you with coping, communication and more “feelings-driven” issues. A Life Coach is not an analyst and does not deal in the past. A coach will help you to clarify strengths and weaknesses, and what may be holding you back from moving forward or making better decisions in the future. A coach allows you to set the agenda, and guides you through the process of clarifying your goals, determining a timeline, and holding you accountable to action-driven commitments.

You may be hesitant to engage in a coaching relationship, or seek counseling with a therapist. Your perception of those services may be negative, and it may create feelings of vulnerability or weakness that make you uncomfortable. However, the common adage that two heads are better than one is certainly common for a reason. A Life Coach is a sounding board who will give you objective feedback and provide a perspective and insight to which you may be blind. Your current thinking patterns and behaviors have gotten you where you are; however it requires new thinking and behavior to get you where you want to go. That can only be accomplished with your willingness to consider other options, other perspectives and a significant amount of vulnerability.

Life Coaching During Divorce

Divorce is one of the largest transition times in your life. It gives you the opportunity to make decisions to shape your life in the direction you want it to go. Because this is such a difficult time emotionally, having an objective person by your side to keep you focused on achieving your vision is invaluable. It’s much easier to put your needs and desires aside and play it small than to go after what you truly want. As difficult as it may be to think about this, there is no better time!

With your Untangle The Knot membership, you have the opportunity to work with me as part of your service. During your free assessment with me, you’ll begin by completing an online survey that takes about 20 minutes. I will review the results with you via phone, and this information will help you clearly see how your strengths, weaknesses and values will shape everything from how you deal with divorce negotiations, make life decisions and even identify new career options. Meanwhile, Julie Gannon, Untangle The Knot Co-Founder and Divorce Coach, offers a free consult which will help you begin to navigate the divorce process from start to finish, and into single life.