I get it, I've been there. I was spinning for way too long about what to do.
Every time I tried to get to a decision, I was paralyzed. For a long time, it seemed that staying was easier than just deciding or getting divorced.
I eventually realized that staying in the grey area all that time was causing both of us more and more pain as time went on.
Once the D word was finally out there and we started moving forward in the process, I felt relief. Making the decision and saying it out loud is one of the hardest parts of the process, but I can’t imagine what my life would be if I hadn’t had the courage to do that.
6 years later and he and I are both happy in our new lives. He is remarried, I have a wonderful boyfriend. We remain partners in co-parenting our 2 children.
I truly understand how heart-wrenching and exhausting this is for you… I also understand how freeing this will be and how amazing life can be on the other side.