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How I Untangled My Knot

I am just on the other side of untangling my own knot, and I am truly grateful for that. It was by far the most difficult thing I have ever done. In most people’s eyes, we had a relatively good life — fairly happy, successful, two kids and the white picket fence, so to speak. But here’s the deal. Nothing is as it seems at times. I pondered the possibility of divorce for a long time, while questions and fears swirled through my head. I’m sure he felt the same.

What about the kids? Will they be okay? Will it mess them up for life? Will I have enough money? What will happen with our assets? Where will I live? Should I sell the house? I can’t sell the house until I put on a new roof and update the master bath, right? How much will that cost? Who do I use? How much money will we even get for the house? What will happen to our friends? Will they chose sides? How will the credit card balance get paid off? Can I qualify for a mortgage on my own? Maybe I should rent. Will he bring another woman around my kids? What will people think? How will my parents react? Will I be alone forever? Am I even strong enough to make it through this without breaking? Is being married and unhappy better than being alone? It has to be easier than figuring this out… right?

How do I untangle the knot I once tied?

It took a while to come to the conclusion that divorce was the best option for us, and I am thankful for the people and resources that helped me answer the questions and move through the process in the best possible way. I have learned so much over the last couple of years, and my business partner Seth and I wanted to create a one-stop place of information, support and guidance, where I could share things I’ve learned in hopes of helping even one person find their way out of a situation they know is wrong for them, and help them move toward a more positive journey for their life.

We’ll share the information I used to answer my questions and soothe my fears including guidance for finding the financial and legal resources, how to develop a support network, and finding the appropriate therapy or coaching to not only move through this period of grief, but also to achieve a greater awareness of yourself in preparation for a happier, more fulfilling relationship in the future. I will also share learnings of a spiritual nature that I discovered when I felt desperate for answers and traveled unfamiliar avenues in hopes of finding them. Each of these topics contributed in some way to my journey. I invite you to read and think about each topic with an open mind, try it on and see what fits. If you can find even one nugget that provides some direction, security or even a shred of peace when you need it, I will consider this to be a worthy effort, and I feel honored that I could be of service.



Welcome to the UTK Blog

My name is Julie Gannon and my journey through divorce led me to co-founding Untangle The Knot with my long time friend and business partner, Seth Wright. Having been there, I truly understand how devastating, complicated, frustrating and lonely divorce can be. Seth had a front row seat to my entire divorce — whether he liked it or not! It turned out to be a good thing, though. Because when the dust settled, we realized that there was a way to create something positive from this experience.

I saw the number of books, websites and other resources out there. It was overwhelming. I knew nothing about divorce, and I didn’t know where to start. What resources could I trust and would be worth the time and money? I had so many questions, so little time, and I was emotionally exhausted by it all. I needed something or someone to guide me through the process and give me the information I needed, when I needed it — a divorce sherpa of sorts. Sadly, none were available. I handled my divorce like I would any other large project at work. I guess I figured it out because my lawyer told me I was the most organized and prepared client she’d ever had. She also told me that I saved thousands of dollars in legal fees because of that!

Seth and I thought others may have the same challenges I did, and that they could benefit from the approach I used. Don’t get me wrong, I made my share of mistakes, and I wish I had some do-overs in many respects. But, all I can do is to keep moving forward in my own journey and to help others avoid the same mistakes. This is how Untangle The Knot was born.

We aren’t therapists, lawyers or divorce professionals per se. We have each spent our careers in the business world, gaining financial and legal expertise and the ability to tackle large-scale projects — all of which translated surprisingly well to getting through divorce. We also have combined interests in physical and emotional health, and spirituality. Above all, we share a most sincere desire to be of service to people, especially during their most difficult times.

Thank you for trusting us, and sharing your journey with Untangle The Knot.